Monday, May 01, 2006
Flirting -- Part II
See below for Part I. Now, my six pieces of advice for single women -- 1) be extremely obvious -- single men are often very dense and/or suffer from low self-esteem, if you like them, make it so obvious that anyone can tell; 2) try to know something about sports or other interests men generally have -- look, you don't have to like all sports, just pick one you can stomach and try to become moderately fluent in its lingo, for some reason hockey seems to be a female fave; 3) try to get past first impressions -- the available guys often make a poor first impression, try to see if there is something beyond the obnoxious outer shell; 4) emphasize the positive in your appearance -- hey, different strokes for different folks, five guys may not like your large chest, but five may; 5) move along -- a corollary of #3, if you give the guy a shot and he is a loser, move along, you are missing out on other opportunities -- far too many women say, "Well, he really isn't SO bad." Um, if you are offering that assessment up after 3-4 dates, he really is. 6) repeat #1 -- I don't think women truly get how obvious they have to be for guys to pick up on the fact that the woman is interested. After a very short attempt at subtlety say, "Hey, I like you and would like to go out some time. You?" You may get crushed, but at least then you can do #5 and waste no more time.